Truth- what are you afraid of? If you weren't afraid of these
things, how would your life be different?
Dare- let someone off the hook for a mistake they made.
I'm not consciously afraid of anything except being abandoned. When I was about 6 years old I was at the Phoenix Zoo with my family. My dad said I could go get something to drink at the snack shop. They would be there when I returned. So I went to buy the drink, and when I returned, my family was gone. I sat on a bench and cried. I thought they left me. Eventually, someone in the family came and found me. But I fear being abandoned. I'm not sure my life would change if I was not afraid. I do not know if it affects me now. I may cry if I lose a friend. I feel it deeply. But it does not change my behavior. I adopted 3 children that were abandoned. Maybe my need to find lost people comes from this fear? It feels bad to be lost. Even worse to feel abandoned.
I asked Jürgen what he was afraid of. I will let him tell you if you ask him. He had an interesting answer. But he also said that environment has a lot to do with fear. We live in a pretty safe environment so I feel pretty safe. But when we lived in LA it was different. Once I took my sister Shelley to Knox Berry Farms. We stayed until it closed. And I had an old car that was giving me problems. It would stall when the engine got hot. And at this time people were getting car jacked by gangs in East LA. So it was about 1am, we were on the way home from the park. We came to a train crossing. I had to stop my car. And when the train passed by, I could not start my car again. So here we sat in East LA at 1am. No cell phone. This was 23 years ago. Cellphones were not so common than. And some strange man comes to our window. It scarred us. He really only wanted to help. But I was not willing to open the window or get out of the car. I just waited for the car to cool off. And then we drove home. My sister got a cellphone the next week. I think our fear was rational. People were being killed in this same area. I try not to be driven by fear, but I know I have fear now and then. I am afraid for my kids. It is a rational fear I assure you.
Dare- let someone off the hook for a mistake they made.
I'm not consciously afraid of anything except being abandoned. When I was about 6 years old I was at the Phoenix Zoo with my family. My dad said I could go get something to drink at the snack shop. They would be there when I returned. So I went to buy the drink, and when I returned, my family was gone. I sat on a bench and cried. I thought they left me. Eventually, someone in the family came and found me. But I fear being abandoned. I'm not sure my life would change if I was not afraid. I do not know if it affects me now. I may cry if I lose a friend. I feel it deeply. But it does not change my behavior. I adopted 3 children that were abandoned. Maybe my need to find lost people comes from this fear? It feels bad to be lost. Even worse to feel abandoned.
I asked Jürgen what he was afraid of. I will let him tell you if you ask him. He had an interesting answer. But he also said that environment has a lot to do with fear. We live in a pretty safe environment so I feel pretty safe. But when we lived in LA it was different. Once I took my sister Shelley to Knox Berry Farms. We stayed until it closed. And I had an old car that was giving me problems. It would stall when the engine got hot. And at this time people were getting car jacked by gangs in East LA. So it was about 1am, we were on the way home from the park. We came to a train crossing. I had to stop my car. And when the train passed by, I could not start my car again. So here we sat in East LA at 1am. No cell phone. This was 23 years ago. Cellphones were not so common than. And some strange man comes to our window. It scarred us. He really only wanted to help. But I was not willing to open the window or get out of the car. I just waited for the car to cool off. And then we drove home. My sister got a cellphone the next week. I think our fear was rational. People were being killed in this same area. I try not to be driven by fear, but I know I have fear now and then. I am afraid for my kids. It is a rational fear I assure you.
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